While I never quite stated it most out loud, because either some don't believe it, some don't think I deserve it and overall it's not everyone's business. I mentioned before I found love. I won't go into too much detail about it, but while things are rocky at this point due to outside forces, as a result of our brief but good relationship, I was able to discover the secret of true love.
For context, whenever someone looks up top 10 Romantic TV Couples. Although new couples tried, I will always state that Gomez and Morticia Addams were the best couple in the history of couples:
While many fans of the show would agree, not a lot would know why. After all, the Addams Family while nice people, are often fucking scary. They equate tortures and beheadings to foreplay. However take away the macabre side for just one moment and list off the things that tick off the romance and marriage lists.
- Although they are married, they trust each other and love each other to allow each other to do their own things individually.
- Unless it was for the sake of a certain plot, they not once had fights or accusations of extramarital affairs.
- Most importantly, while they do value each other's individual space, when they do do things together. Be it going on honeymoons or dumping hot lead on Christmas Carolers, it's a spectacle to behold. Hell in the 90s movies, they basically used auction numbers as a turn on and conceived Pubert Addams in the middle of an auction floor.
In my case, I realized with mine that although we still love each other, we should separate and let us do our own thing. That's where the secret comes in.
Many couples and do not bullshit me, you do this too, often have times where they either go to separate places or go places together. Shopping, dancing, bar hopping, you name it. Some couples, are so insecure with themselves, that whenever they separate even for a few hours, they assume the worst out of each other. "Oh she's at a bar without me, maybe she's fucking some other guy." "My man's at a bachelor party, he's obviously fucking the stripper." Things like that. Now I had the fortunate luxury to know how promiscuous my love was. It didn't bother me, save for the fact that I was worried whomever she was with at the time, would either abuse her or give her an STD. I was the son of a Hippie, I believe in free love and she liked me a hell of a lot more, so it helped. But like any other guy I would have gotten insecure. I mean look at Dante from Clerks, when he found out what his girlfriend at the time Veronica did:
However despite her sexual history, she didn't want that anymore. Veronica wanted Dante and Dante only, but he was so full of himself pining over an ex of his that he didn't care. By the time he realized it, it was already too late. Had I not watch this and Chasing Amy, I probably would have reacted the same way. Hell a lot of members of my family, tried to talk me out of the relationship, simply based on sexual history alone.
Which leads me to my point on the secret. So let's hear it.
Sometimes, even if you're destined soulmates, you have to separate every now and then, to allow your partner and yourself to have individual growth. This could be anything good or bad, but at the same time, the experiences it wrought allow them to grow and expand on their own terms, so that if and when they feel ready to come back together, they won't just know how to take care of themselves, but share the experiences with each other in order to take care of each other.
That is true love. That is what love is all about, it's what it's always been about and I hate to say it, a lot of people even the best of couples, screwed up in that department. Some think love is about one person controlling the other, because only ONE knows best. Others think it's about convenience and material. Some think love is all about sex only. This crap is wrong. For as long as you assume the worst of each other and not have faith your partner is ok on their own sometimes, then there's no point. You honestly don't love each other if you can't even trust or have faith in each other. I've only experienced love for about a few months and yet I get it. A lot of you so called players, never really experienced love, so you don't get it and if you comment here, telling me otherwise. Fuck you, your word means shit to me. Love is all about trusting each other to do their own thing, while at the same time share things together.
And that is why Gomez and Morticia are the best couple. Even if it was for the sake of comedy, Charles Fucking Addams, found the secret to true love, using his love of horror comedy.
And it only took me a few months to get it myself, because I looked past my own insecurities and tried to see things through the perspective of my partner. She even once literally gave me sunglasses to be more on the nose about it. Hehe. Nowadays regardless of how it turns out, I love, trust and have faith that things will be fine whether we're together or not.
Take care, stay safe and stay tuned for more.