This is the last revelation, but the most important one. Something that should have been said a long time ago.
This was something that has happened for a long time, way before even many of us were even born.
For the longest time, myself included, each individual on this planet, whether we lived in wealth or poverty, often have reasons to fight each other. Some justified, some not. However what we fail to realize then and there, is that much of the things they were fighting against one another for, were based on the simplest, yet difficult reason that it boggles my mind that no one even thought of it or at the very least thought it was either too easy or too hard to do.
Now I want you to pay attention, the reason will shock and surprise you, but essentially you are gonna want to hear this. You listening? Turn the volume way up if you are. Ok. You ready? Here we go....ahem:
SIT DOWN AND TALK!!!
Sounds simple right? Stop right there. Now a lot of things that people fight about regardless of how bad it gets and how much damage is wrought is often because of poor communication. Now this is nothing new. There have been many many moments in real life and in the media, where they try to hammer the point in. However the rare thing is that is often overlook isn't so much what to do. It's how to do it.
Most people fail to understand that to better communicate with each other, you have to understand the other person's POV. I myself am an empath, so it's easy for me to assume the emotional point of view of others. I am able to both tell the pain they feel and whom they hurt just from being in the same room with them. But even then, it's not reliable all the time. However, if one's intuition or gut feeling is a little on the fritz it doesn't mean it's wrong. It simply means if you want to know for sure what's upsetting the other party, it wouldn't kill you to ask.
However, here's the thing. Some people much like myself, often sometimes feel too right about a situation. We assume too much, sometimes get it right, but other times things happen beyond our control, it makes us feel stupid for even thinking it could go another way. And if the battle is tense, neither side wouldn't consider it even if they really wanted to.
In my case, among many problems, I run into the major one. While I try to understand the other's POV, sometimes people don't care to hear my POV, based on either judging my past actions or the way they feel about me for various reasons. Had people gotten to know me fully, they'd realize that differences aside, there are things too similar to each other. So similar, that some people can be so full of themselves and neither fail to see the irony or hypocrisy in general. I myself am a hypocrite in some respects. I try to be peaceful, but like many others, I fly into a rage. I berate people for lying, but I myself have lied in the past. Hell, I hate bullies and yet I became one of them when I fought back too much. However the main difference between me and others like me who become self aware of their hypocrisy and sins over time, as well as the rest of the world is, once we admit that we have a problem, it becomes somewhat more easier to fix. The one's that don't, just keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect a different result. The true definition of Insanity.
Yet, if we can acknowledge our faults and put aside our petty differences, you can find that working together is more productive and progressive to the world, than fighting each other all the time.
Most people don't stop fighting because of some warped sense of pride thinking that if they don't keep going the other side is gonna win. But eventually the fight continues on for years to the point where you two still hate each other, but forgotten exactly what you were fighting about. Even if walking away sometimes is the better solution.
Others don't because they think fighting is the only thing they are good for and drag others into the cycle of violence.
But the main reason is that on the off chance it does work it makes everything else they went through pointless making them feel useless in the end. On top of admitting hypocrisy.
Me I have no qualms admitting my hypocrisy, but I try to at the very least curb certain behaviours that have held me back. And the thing that made it uneasy is that even among my closest friends and family, they exhibit the behaviour as though they are above it, when they are really not without sin. They hate bullies, but bully me, causing me to bully them back. If I stand up to them no matter how just I feel, whether I say little or go too far, then suddenly I'm the bad guy. Even on the meds that part made me mad. Why should I behave when they don't? Why should I listen to them talk when they don't listen to me sometimes? What did I do that was so wrong that it felt like even those that truly loved me, hated me? Then it turns out it was because they failed to understand me, just as I failed to understand them. Rather than the blame be on one person, regardless of how just we feel, we were both in the wrong, only I was the only one with the courage to call the other out on said hypocrisy. Hell I once yelled at an old lady on a scooter, because she thought me standing in the sidewalk in front of a passing stroller, was not gentleman like. Yet she allows her male friends, whom she considers the standards of gentleman, to slut shame and insult a young woman, who's only crime was wanting to dance to their music. Needless to say I snapped and to this day, that person only thinks I was some asshole mean to her for no reason. When I had plenty reason. Not just hypocrisy, not just because for all her talk about what it means to be a gentleman, she never even lifted a finger or raised a voice to tell them to leave her alone, but when I confronted her about it, more than once, she referred to the woman as a "Whore". Despite claiming to like said woman before. I seen some two-faced shit in my time but when it comes from someone close doing the same to someone close, despite that person not being perfect themselves, I draw the line. But it's not just them. It's everyone.
Every single person whom since they been old enough to talk coherently has done to their perceived enemies what has been done to them. The problem is, that some are such narcissists that they never see it even if it's right in front of them. Yet if it's not them doing it, suddenly they're perfect...fuck you.
No one's perfect, no one's above or below anyone, it's not about race, sex, class, religion, politics or even something as petty as someone egging your house. This is gonna come as a shock to you, but you're all equally assholes. I'm at least honest about it myself and I've been trying to make up for it since. How many of you actually tried even with your rep and life on the line?
I'm an asshole and rather than regret it, I'm becoming proud of it. I'm a loser, because winners get cocky. I'm a jerk because kindness is considered a weakness. I'm a pushover because it's against the law to fight back. I'm a moron, because intelligence is considered abnormal. I hate because I try and fail to find love. And if you all don't like what I have to say, if you all don't think I'm right, if you think you're the exception, well newsflash asshole you're not.
I'm me, you're you. We're both assholes, either shape up or ship out. Deal with it. You all think you know whom I am, well I'll tell you. I'm a 33 year old Canadian Austistic Psychopath, with a history of baggage, a dysfunctional but loving family and a high school diploma. Whom struggles to make it to the entertainment business, share's his struggles with the world to a certain degree, is proud of his failures as much as his accomplishments, because he's still alive and trying to realize the purpose of his life as a man that witnessed a lot of fucked up shit over the years and still keeps going in spite of the turmoil he's been put through. Why? Because I'm stubborn, I learn from my mistakes, I make new ones and I try to find better solutions to the same damn problems, without once taking a break save to rest, smoke and watch TV.
I am proud of who I am faults and all. Can you say the same? Either take the time to understand each other or cut each other out of your lives. Stop wasting your time, put the phone down and stay in fucking school.
Take care, stay safe and stay tuned for more.