As most of you know I took a long look at my life. And I realized, not just what my own personal problems were, but also the problems with humanity in general. It seems too good and too simple to be true, but here it is.

Whether I'm online or offline, I've always my whole life have gotten into many fights. Some of which for just reasons. Others mainly because I went over the edge and started fighting and hurting people for no other reason than sadistic joy. This was wrong. I know it's wrong. Yet I couldn't stop. But then I realized why just today.

While it may seem farfetched, but it's not because of what I did good or bad. If anything, all that was, was mainly the result of the aftermath of what it really was, one way or another.

Throughout my whole life whenever I exploded in anger. Be it through text, voice or sometimes even actions (No word of a lie, there was a time when as a kid I physically hurt people violently and ruthlessly whether they deserved it or not.), people have told me it was because I kept things bottled up. Yet, whenever I felt the need to get stuff off my chest, those same people don't want to hear it. Could be friends, family and even total strangers. Why? Because of two reasons, the stuff I vent about, in their eyes bring a negative vibe that they don't want to feel, but most importantly it's because they had the same problem that I had. I even put it into play, both intentionally and unintentionally pissing off those in my circle that didn't agree with me and much like me, they got angry, kept cutting me off mid conversation and when called on certain things even when they were being truthful about what they were saying, accuse me of finding faults in my own point and coming to them to find said faults. However, once we were able to vent out, stop and listen to each other's points and then give feedback, we ended up in better spirits. Why? Because we got that negativity out and letting it go.

So it got me to realize, not just my problems, but the true problem with humanity in general. We have been conditioned to bottle things up, both by ourselves and each other. Different personalities, perspectives and points of view clash, fights happen and when we try to hold back what we really want to say and feel to each other it becomes a pressure gauge kicking into overdrive until it eventually explodes. Making the problem worse than it should have been.

Now there are many ways of getting out anger and negativity in general that do help, unless there are certain complications. Including but not limited to certain disorders.

1. Anger Management.
2. Simple Breathing Exercises and Meditation.
3. Various different drugs and substances both legit and illegit.

Just to name a few.

But while they do help in various ways, to calm the body, calming the mind isn't that easy. Especially considering each mind is unique with their own personalities, insecurities and all around different quirks that force them to bottle things up even well after they used this stuff.

Sometimes even when they tell other people not to bottle things up, they're usually the one's that have things bottled up too, which is both a sympathy and somewhat a hypocrisy. We are encouraged to speak our minds, but when people don't like what we have to say, we either speak louder or shut up and bottle it up even more.

It wasn't until recently, after a few times I've snapped on people, that I realized the problem. We have no place to unload. Whether it's by yourself or with your friends/family or even among total strangers. There is often always someone watching or hearing what people have to say even if it's none of their business sometimes. It makes us more guarded and in turn makes us bottle it up more. You can't even unload at home because you consider the neighbours may either tell you to shut up or call the cops on a noise complaint. That's correct. Even if said yelling isn't the following:

1. Threats.
2. Slurs.
3. Insults.

You literally would get fined or go to jail for unloading. It's almost like something or someone out there is trying to keep us bottled up so that we may one day eventually explode and start killing each other. Wars have been started because of shit like that. Politics have made us turned off on the idea of speaking our mind, because it doesn't matter to the people that run the place and don't agree with you. For a Democracy in North America, it comes across as more like a dictatorship. Because while there are many people in many positions of government that do have somewhat of a say, it all comes down to whether or not the main person agrees to it. Not to mention the many many arguments regarding religion and non-religion. Each side working against one and other, both knowingly and unknowingly pushing each other's buttons, but making sure we keep our damn mouths shut, rather than at least see what it's like on the other side and finding common ground.

It's one of the reasons why people are so addicted to the net. Above all else it allows people to vent and unload on each other anonymously even if they happen to be next door to each other. However, that is not right either. For even if you speak your mind on the net, it does not necessarily mean you can unload your stuff in the real world. And unsurprisingly, that's exactly what's been pissing me off and I'm pretty sure it's been pissing off a lot of others too.

But essentially the idea is that if we don't find ways of catharsis at the very least in small doses and if we don't find ways to unload all that anger, to yell, scream or even fight out the shit we can't get off our chests; we will die faster, younger and to the point where we may go extinct based on our anger alone. After all, people do a lot of stupid shit while they're angry. Present company included.

So my solution messed up as it sounds is a very simple one that even the most non-violent person can even do. Aggressive venting.

By that I mean if you have a verbal or emotional problem you need to let out, regardless how many people tell you not to and even try to talk over you. Let it out no matter how offensive it is, because once you get that off your chest, you're thinking more clearly about your decisions in life, including but not limited to regretting some of the things you said letting out. Because even if you feel right about what you said, you let it out in the open and finally let go of what's been eating at you.

If you have a physical problem you need to let out. Such as including but not limited to wanting to punch a person out. Buy or even better, make a punching bag. The work you put in making it will either ease stress or add more onto it, but that's ok, because you get to let all that stress out by punching it. Then the only thing you need to worry about is whether or not you broke your hand punching too hard.

If you have a specific problem with another person or people. Regardless of the beef and regardless of implications, just let it out. The worst that could happen is that they either try to stop you from talking or fight you if they don't like what you have to say. In that case, if you feel better after saying it, you have feet. You can either walk towards them and fight them or you can walk away from them and leave them to their own devices because at that point, who gives a shit? They have their shit and you have yours, it doesn't have to be both.

But essentially the idea is that you just let it out and be done with it.

That aside there are two very harmless ways of doing this regardless of the situation:

1. You let it out in small doses. If something specific is bothering you, talk about it, yell about it, do whatever. But do it small doses. No different than venting gas at a nuke plant.
2. Or you go somewhere where no one can hear you. A park, the woods. Somewhere where there is no one for miles that could hear you. You take everything that's bothering you, let it build up and then release.....in one big primal scream.

Once you do that, the weight completely lifts off your shoulders, and you're able to be more calmer, more collective and thinking more clearly.

The weirdest part is, that people have been doing this, but have never found a proper place to do it. Now you do.

Basically what I am saying is that part of why Humanity has been teetering between Evolution and Extinction, depends on how one handles their emotions. Do you let it bottle up until you explode or do you vent it and give safe release?

Try it out and comment below.

Take care, stay safe and above all else, let loose.