I'm only gonna sum it up in as few words as I can explain.
- Regardless of how much we deny it, somehow our parents could and have lived vicariously through us. We each have a trait from theirs for better or worse. If you can live with the Good and the Bad with the right balance based on your own personal values and morals, then you'll do fine if not better than your parents or others of the generation before you could ever get to.
- Unless you do thorough research on your own personal social circles, you're not gonna move ahead. You need them, they need you and in some instances they often need each other as well. Find a way to combine their strengths and you'll all move forward in life.
- Let go of all acts of revenge you feel you need to do. There are no winners in revenge and the cycle continues. I seen some fucked up shit, but if I can't do anything to help or stop it, I can't let it run my life either. You're not an asshole for not doing it, but some situations are better left handled by others you'd trust would do a better job than you.
- The most important one. Find your Root Problem. Everyone has one. Out of all the problems in your life since the day you were all old enough to walk and talk, there was one simple yet difficult and time consuming problem that if you managed to solve it, every other problem you ever had compared to it would be so easy that it aligns with that solved problem alone and inspires you how to solve the others depending on the level of importance. Take me for example. I wanted to find a way to help other people regardless of what it cost me, but I learned over the years, that if I couldn't save myself for what I viewed was wrong with me, I wouldn't be able to help the next person. So I dedicated more time to myself, to see both which faults needed dealt with, see if others in my circle had similar problems and then we all throw in how to solve it. In my case I take things into consideration, combine the suggested ideas and see how I could pull them off. It's not easy, to do. Takes a lot of work, but it would at the very least take a lot of weight on all our shoulders.
So this is my piece of advice for this new year. Save yourself, save your friends, save your family, save the world. All groups know more than what you know about them and their advice or their example good or bad is what drives us all into life.
Messed up as it sounds. We all have a role to play in life. But it's based on how well you know yourself, to know which role you play.
Take care. Stay safe. Stay Tuned For More.
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These are all valid points, but I don’t think it applies to EVERYONE. This “root problem” you mention is certainly one that we all need to be aware of. But it seems like more of an everyday hamartia than the root of every problem in our lives. External circumstances have a far greater impact than maybe we give them credit for. The way we were raised, the trauma we’ve had to endure— all of that affects us. Sometimes it’s THOSE situations that can be the root of our problems. Self-improvement can’t fix the messed up sht that happens OUTSIDE of us, and therefore outside of our control.
I thoroughly appreciate all of the thoughtful things you post here, they’re always enlightening reads that provoke philosophies that I might not have ever considered otherwise. Thanks for putting in the time and cognitive effort to write stuff like this!
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Outside stuff is a factor, but at the same time it's also one way or another a reflection of one's problems inside. It's one of the reasons one of my main goals was to get as many people in my circles together, because every one of us experienced something on the outside that fucked with us one way or another and what we learned from it, if it helped another stumped, we teach them and vice versa. We each solve problems we have an equal mutual understanding of and at the same time somehow become the missing link to the other person's problems.
However while we do work together and managed to solve enough problems, that allowed us to live off and work off each other, there was always something missing. Something I could always tell that bothered them the most. That's where the whole root problem comes.
To put it in perspective. It's like that episode of the Simpsons where Burns wanted his childhood teddy bear back. The man has billions of dollars, enough to cause Evil 1000 times over and even afford an exact replica of Bobo, but no matter what he did, that bear was one of a kind and the source of his last childhood innocence. When he did get the bear granted he didn't change, but had the show ended that season, that would have solved a story arc on the guy. But point being, Bobo was his root problem at the time. That's the thing about roots, there are so many, so ergo so many root problems.
Each one of my friend's and family and so on has their own individual root problem. It could be something as simple as a mundane task that is far out of reach or something major like one main goal side tracked by the goals that you need to achieve it or obstacles that stand in the way of you "Uprooting" the problem. Even with what I wrote on this article I'm still learning about this as I'm going along.
That said I do appreciate your comment and forgive the lateness of the reply.